The Right Questions To Ask a Tarot Reader.
Asking the right questions your tarot reader isn’t about “coloring inside the lines.” It’s less constrictive and more simply, what you, as the querent, choose to personally align yourself with. Tarot stretches across continents, making it obvious that not all readers are alike. However, amongst all that diversity, we can find similarity in the stereotypes orbiting tarot. Fortune telling, prediction, mysticism, and magic are just a few. Yet, when we pull back the proverbial velvet purple curtain, we don’t always find a crystal ball, glowing with mystery and visions of the future. More often, it’s a mirror. Holding the potential of personal reflections and accountability.
For example, if you're navigating a no contact situation. Your question might be, “Will Bobby break no contact soon?” In my personal practice, this question is not only dangerous and pulls the focus off of you, the querent, the seeker, but it demands prediction. Carl Jung said, "The mirror does not flatter, it faithfully shows.” A resounding truth, that strays from prediction and reminds us, that you can not look into the mirror for another person.
With your own eyes, you have to be ready to face what the reflection will reveal. Unexplored patterns, subconscious habits, and challenging frames of mind can be some of what we come face to face with in a reading. Because of how impactful and delicate situations can be, choosing your reader wisely is just as important as the question you ask. I’ve chosen to build my practice on Trauma-Informed and Holistic Life Coaching Education, because for me, client safety amongst these impactful topics is my highest priority.
Let me use the same example question from earlier to explain. “Will Bobby break no contact soon?” How many different scenarios could this situation be loaded with. The choice to go no contact could’ve been on the querent or their partner, Bobby. This could be a family situation rather than a romantic one. Bobby could be sibling or an emotionally abusive parent. Bobby could actually be the victim of abuse making the querent an abuser. If as a reader, I chop this up to a simple yes or no, the onslaught of domino effects easily includes re-traumatize and perpetrating cycles of abuse. I’m not accusing anyone but we simply do not know the full scope of the situation, meaning I could be aligning my intuition with values that directly go against my core beliefs and moral compass. As your potential Tarot Reader, this is why I choose to focus on the querent I’m speaking with and leave predictive questions behind, to ensure that what’s taken from a reading is self-guided accountability and revealed truth.
But where does that leave intuition? Isn’t the nature of tarot, physic abilities? In most practices the answer is yes. However, the core value of my practice is not to prove my physic or intuitive gifts, I trust in my gifts, and I choose to recognize that intuition shouldn’t over-ride consent. So in the case of “Will Bobby break no contact soon?” Should I, on behalf of my querent attempt to access Bobby’s energy without their consent? Is spying on the personal thoughts and feelings of “Bobby” acceptable in certain cases? If so, in what cases? Where is the line? I can hear the nay sayers now, "Then you’re not reading tarot.” and “You’re not actually gifted.” If the goal of my practice is to prove my abilities, then firstly, pieces of not only others but of you, that are intimate and deeply personal become venerable to my need of justification. Gross. Secondly, If the goal of my practice is centered on my self-validation, then respectfully, I need to work on myself before continuing in my practice. Your personal and/or traumatic lived experiences shouldn’t be at the mercy of anyone’s need to “connect”, unless you’ve explicitly agreed to that level of energy work.
More simply, just because I can doesn’t always mean I should. Because of the complexity of real-life situations how something lands with a querent matters. My intuition is a sacred tool. One that helps to hold space as the querent arrives at their own inner-wisdom. I choose to ask questions that inspire exploration and empower you to gently uncover what you may already be feeling beneath the surface. My practice is collaborative, trauma-informed, and deeply human. I am not here to tell you whether Bobby will text you, or if your ex will come back, or whether fate will deliver exactly what you hope for. Tarot, in my practice, is not about accessing someone else. It is about returning to yourself, and deepening your own inner-wisdom.
So where does that leave us? Not without questions but with better ones.
“Will Bobby break no contact soon?”
My response would be, “Let’s reframe that to…”
“What is this period of no contact asking you to understand within yourself?”
“How can you best support yourself while navigating this separation?”
“What patterns or emotions are being reflected back to you through this situation?”
“What would it look like for you to honor your own needs and boundaries right now?”
“How can you move forward in a way that aligns with your well-being, regardless of Bobby’s actions?”
“What truth is this no contact situation revealing to you, and how can you respond in a way that supports your growth?”
Your question to your reader is the truth of what you, as the querent, choose to personally align yourself with. When we make the conscious choice to approach tarot with aligned questions that focus on ourselves, our intentions and the way we show up in our daily life. Questions highlighting our personal patterns, situational direction, and inner-voice, then we can see the most impactful results.
